My body feels so hot. I think that is because I had sup kambing for dinner hehe. I went to the laundry with my mother and sister, so while waiting for my laundry, we made our tummies happy. And now, I cannot even sleep. Maybe because also I had two bowls of laksa for lunch. Great I reaaaaaaally need to check my diet tips
Anyway, I just watched something that I believe every woman needs to watch it too and learn from it. I am not gonna share her Instagram id since you know a private reason, even though I believe she would not mind haha. So if you can guess who is she, then yes, she is the one that I am talking about haha. First and foremost, she is not my friend nor do I know her personally. She is just someone that I stalk on Instagram every day hehe. Sort of like my girl crush. Wait, she is in ranking #2 I think. You get distracted a lot gurl, please focus on what is your actual point
So, as I was saying, this girl crush of mine, shared in her instastory about abusive marriage. It happened to her friend. Her friend was in the instastory too. She claimed this need to be heard so that women out there, know what to do. This abusive marriage of her friend happened 5 years ago if I did hear it clearly. Most of the reasons, why she got abused cos her ex husband had a two wives. She was the first one. She was like a punching bag to her ex husband since she was so close to him compared to his other wife. She didn’t tell anyone about her problem, even to her family. She told that she was embarrassed. That was the strongest reason. Also, her ex husband made she believed that she was at fault and deep down in her heart, she knew she needed her husband so much. She was a housewife with 4 children. I was so focused listening to her stories. She was so relax and calm when sharing her stories, I didn’t see any tears fall from her eyes. ‘Wow this woman must be so strong’ I muttered under my breath
You know what made me so mad was when she told that her ex husband kicked her stomach when she was 4 month pregnant! For God’s sake! What was this guy thinking?! She even shared that there was one time when her ex husband pull her hair and banged her head against the wall. What. The. Fish. Was. Wrong. With. This. Basdard. I felt like I was watching malay drama about abusive but sadly I don’t remember the title but Fazura was the actress lol. So back to the topic, she held it for a longest time, until her friends realized that something terrible happened to her- her bruises. That was when my girl crush dragged her to the police station and made a report. She of course went to the counselling to get a therapy but surprisingly she said despite all the bad things that have happened to her, she’s ready to fall in love again and married. Some of the women maybe traumatized to fall in love again, but she did not
That is the story. I even stalked her friend’s Instagram. There is no picture of her ex husband (Duhhh of course!) but only her families and her children. I wanted to cry so bad seeing her kids. They are still young. I was wondering which child that her husband kicked when she was pregnant. I made my own assumption, must be the youngest one. I have had enough of crying so I against it. Gotta look cool, gotta look cool as I chanted in my head. She is so strong. And her ex husband? Yes he was a chicken! Okay a king kong to be exact! Even a real king kong falls in love with a human! If you know what I mean..
I may not know her full stories, but I believe she was the strongest woman when she decided she had had enough and she gotta out of this mess. My girl crush, I really need to give my girl crush a fake name. Alright so A, yes her initial name, told that at first her friend’s ex husband was a nice guy, he was loved by the community cos he always showed a good man attitude so no one would expect that he would turn into a horrific man
Anything can happen to anyone so it’s best to be prepared. I may sound strong and brave to stand on my feet but I would never know what would I do If I were in her friend’s shoes. It’s easier said than done. I cry a lot. So that cannot guarantee my life that I will stay stronger haha. I was thinking so hard to the extent I have to start doing a research about abusive marriage. How bad it is in Malaysia. You see, when you read a lot, you will know a lot. But my blog will become more adult and serious haha
I should head to bed now. I already hear my tummy making a weird noises ugh. But before I say my good night, I just want to tell that all the stories that I hear or I watch, actually make me more stronger. You know you would never be alone, you will always have someone with you, even the authorities are with you. We are living in a country that have rules. If you do something bad to people, there is always other people who will come and help you. Wowwwww what am I now?